IT IS WHAT IT IS

I often sit back and think about alot of things..
I find myself questioning almost everything ...
Like what would've happened if i had done this, or what if i didnt do that...

We sometimes question what we cant handle the answers too. We often stress about things we cant change. We sometimes put so much energy in a certain situation that it drains us to the point where we forget ourselves.

Friendships, romance, etc..

Sometimes things happen for the best of us. We may not like the results, but its sometimes what we need. For the most part,the end to anything, just simply means a start to something new.

Too often we try to hold on to useless relationships(friendships/romance), that it drains us. For too long we try to make these relationships work when, sadly, there is no hope. We have to force ourselves to realize that how things " use to be" is " no longer ".

Coming to realization, however brings about pain which makes us feel betrayed. Which is normal, anyone that tells you otherwise, is a complete asshole. But whats most important is whats ahead, what are you going to do to move forward.

Everyone has been through some kind of heartache and pain when it comes down to dealing with relationships. Losing a "friend" or even a "lover", whatever it was, we've all been there. If you haven't, cheers to you.
Knowing that you've put so much time and effort into someone for it to go to waste, is depressing but i promise you, you wont die. Nonetheless it shouldn't make you feel as if you're not good enough despite what might've happened.
No one is perfect, yes relationships end, shit sometimes it feels like the end of the world, but lets be real when its all said and done you look back and think " i really was stressing over this mofo" 

Realizing you're worth is KEY 
With that being said, you shouldn't have to run after ANYBODY
If they cant seem to appreciate you LET THEM GO

History should NEVER get in the way of your happiness. Friends of 8 years, not making sense? Let them go
You've been with him/her, 4 years, and its not making sense, not going anywhere? Let them go



We have to realize that we're not getting any younger, shit happens, life happens. Some people are only here in our lives temporarily. If its over its OVER, DONE, FINITO!  But you dont say you're "done" and keep going back. Thats pointless. 
Im not saying to hold a grudge but take the time to process the situation, find yourself to the point where you can however forgive whomever for whatever heartache and pain they've put you through. We all know the whole " forgive and forget" saying is hard, shit to me its bullshit! How could you possibly forget something someone did that might've scarred you. But for the most part forgiveness is key. Lets face it, you cant go through life holding this one grudge against someone, that leads to bitterness. Resentment leads to you not being able to move on with your life, sad but true. Delete number, pictures, unfollow, shit even throw in a block if you have to.

Missing that friendship or that " lover" is normal. You're so use to communicating, seeing each other etc. But it is, what it is. Its normal, you'll get over it. 

Focus on yourself, and instead of sobbing about the situation, take your mind off of the situation by becoming active. Do something, go out, do some positive shit. Being locked up in your room changes NOTHING. Because truth is the person you're "sudging" over probably doest GAF and for the most part, is out and about "doing them". Use that energy to do something productive. Because the pain is only temporary. Don't let one situation determine how you should be for the rest of your life. Shit happens, you live and you learn but don't beat yourself up about something that you can no longer change. Live life with no regrets, with support, prayer and encouragement nothing is impossible to overcome. Don't let the mistakes of yesterday determine your tomorrow. Deal with it, get over it, and proceed.


Always Remember to Rate yourself enough to understand your value



-LeeLyn'

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  1. Thank you for this word of encouragement girly!! I love itπŸ’›πŸ’›πŸ’› everything u said is so true and is something I'm going through. I love when girls encourage one another with wisdom❣️❣️

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  2. Good read, too often we place people on a pedestal and then get crushed when they don't live up to expectations. Like you said, we have to know our worth and value, expectations normally leads to disappointment especially when we don't have control over the person/situation. We should always just hope for the best but expect the worst, at least that's what seems to work better for me. The disappointment isn't as big and that makes it a bit more easier.

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  3. Real talk baby girl. I'm so proud of you for encouraging young ladies

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  4. You're absolutely right. I feel the exact same way in regards to time. For instance, like you said, 8 years of friendship/relationship and we feel the need to keep it. Like I always tell my friends, do not tolerate it and stay in it just because you got history. Moreover, we use our energy on others and completely neglect ourselves. I think it is related to our influences. This was an awesome read. We are familiarized with holding on to what we have even when it is no longer ours.

    -Plumpy

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  5. Wow, nice! What you're saying is absolutely true. We find ourselves crying over our significant other and they don't carr at all. It's time women started empowering each other and I'm happy that you made someone think more positive (myself) . Continue to do what you're doing now, it'll pay off in the long run πŸ€—

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    1. I appreciate it darling heart❤️πŸ’‹

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